Food Addictions: Emotional Attachment
Food Addiction - So I've wanted to do this topic for a while now, but I wanted to present it the right way to truly go in-depth. I was very hesitant to present and do the video of this for our Will to Wellness Wednesday because I want to truly come from a very holistic and balanced perspective. I will do more videos about our relationship to food in the future (by the time you have read this article, I may have already done them). This is a very big topic because food addictions are so common however most people have such a dramatic perspective about it they are desensitized. So it is usually overlooked that many people actually have a poor relationship with food - which leads to food addiction. Just as people who have poor relationships with themselves and others become prone to sex addiction. Sex addiction leads to a distorted view of the act itself to the point where it is degraded and abused. The same goes for food addiction. I will do videos or write about this correlation at a later time.
Where it starts
How did we start our relationship with food? Well, our relationship with food starts before we can even talk. It is one of the first things we enjoy and are soothed by usually the first 30 mins after coming out of our Mothers' womb. From my intuitive perspective and many researchers, the first type of food you are introduced to as an infant, impacts the types of food you gravitate towards throughout your life as well as your unconscious connection with food. For example, breastfed children whose Mothers ate healthy during nursing timeframe have a tendency to have healthier food preferences as they grow older. Also, Breastfed children tend to consume less than formula-fed children during the nursing period. Therefore, many researchers suggest that being breastfed by a Mother who eats healthy can prevent obesity in the long run.
This is where our unconscious relationship to food begins as well many unconscious patterns we try to unpack and overcome as adults especially ones that are not servings us. Eating is instinctual, but also it is emotional. There is a deep correlation between feeling nurtured and regulating and coping with your emotions. Eating, whether nursing or bottle, was how we instinctively coped with being in a new world and in a new body as infants. This coping mechanism is instinctual in many animals when they come out of the womb. We instinctively want to be nursed, not just for nutrients, but also for the new way of bonding and transition from being one with the mother. This is what we are used to before being born. So yes, food was also our first coping mechanism. This also explains why all newborn babies do is sleep, poop and eat during the early stages of life. They also eat very frequently to be nourished and nurtured through the transition, not just for the physical body, but the emotional body of oneself.
You look into society and wonder why people do what they do. It is due to people's emotional set. We are emotional creatures, therefore we are social creatures. In a balanced and natural society, people use socialization to nurture and feed their emotional bodies. Back when socializing was more emotionally satisfying, there was no obesity epidemic and people had a healthier and rich relationship with food. In present-day "developed" countries, people are more socially deprived, therefore they are more emotionally deprived. Many social encounters are socially engineered and processed, similar to the processed food that is ever-present in society. This creates an emotional deficiency, less emotional intelligence, and people who are trying to counterbalance this unconsciously through their relationship with food. How you emotionally process things is going to affect how you engage with food-dependent on how you think of the world around you and what happens/happened to you. This is why people usually binge eat while they are on a specific "diet". They can be triggered emotionally which drives them to scarf down an entire X-Large pizza to satisfy their emotional needs. Typically they feel guilty and like crap after, similar to how many may feel when they have a drunken one-night's stand. When you've seen or experienced this type of behavior, there is an internal battle that is driving these behaviors aka symptoms, that stem from emotional deprivation or imbalancements.
Acknowledgment is Key
Why has this been normalized through media and movies? Because a lot of money can and has been made, in many industries, from our animalistic nature and our disconnection and lack of understanding of nature. We live in a capitalistic society and in this type of society, it is about power, influence, and money over natural human needs. This also explains why we see processed food and unnatural drugs being marketed and pushed in our society. As well as being readily available. We've seen our mental and physical health decline in these times, yet the diagnosis, labels, fundings, and establishment have increased. Even though we all see it, it is such a taboo topic because you would have the so-called modern scientific and western medical community argue with all of the establishment driven innovations and act like it is some sort of impossible jigsaw puzzle to figure out. Never would we dare to question the so-called "modern" and "advanced" civilization and expose it as the culture that created and perpetuates this imbalancement. This imbalancement is interconnected with the environment and nature itself as well as us human beings (we are also a part of nature) and the different aspects of ourselves. This unconsciously drives people to eat certain vibrational "foods" obsessively and take poisons (pharmaceutical drugs that come with side effects because they are not holistic and balanced) that also perpetuates them feeling low, imbalanced, more sick, ill, and suffering. All for a temporarily altered state of consciousness, for temporary comfort or relief from these energetic imbalancements. People are awakening to these loops that many of us have felt or were born into and are deciding to take their health into their own hands, as well as think for themselves, and exercise self-discipline to get out of this loop. However, we have to be careful not to think linearly and one-dimensional about how to go about and doing this. We should consider the emotional and spiritual aspects of this to arrive at a holistic perspective. Acknowledging and accepting this will do wonders in breaking unhealthy habits such as food addiction.
So, we may want to eat a certain way, but are unaware of these impacts. This alone can control you when you not aware of the influences, impact, and connection to why we unconsciously consume certain things. It is not just for logical reasons it is also for energetic reasons. For example, a lot of people will say 'I feel like eating'....or ask another, 'what do you feel like eating?' We say this, but are unconscious of how often we are driven to emotionally eat. I am not here to say completely stop or shame anyone for emotionally eating. I am bringing this to light from a holistic perspective.
I feel like it would be more balanced to begin to have a healthier understanding of this by acknowledging that this is natural for us to emotionally eat, but also know that others pray
and gain so much from this ignorance and our imbalancements. Also, know you are able to vibrationally shift your emotions and/or consciously practice self-discipline to make better food consumption choices. Does this take work and effort? Yes, it does and it can be done. Does it have to look perfect? Lol, perfect is an illusion. It's like chasing a phantom. In other words, don't obsess with a certain idolized concept or image or you can fall into the dogmatization of what health is.
Balanced Health is Not A Fixed Thing
Balanced health is not a fixed thing. Life is continually flowing, changing rhythm, and fluctuating. This may look slightly different for others based on their holistic engagement with life and how they can conduct and alchemize the energetic impact of what is consumed and output. We all have our different encounters, approach, experiences, and perspectives of the energy we are giving and receiving. The key to this is moving with the flow and dance of life to maintain balance, not a fixed position. When you do that you easily get beat up and weathered down more by life. However, people will come from a place of right or wrong about emotions and foods rather than from a space of cause and effect. This can cause people who want different and better for themselves to relapse, give up before trying, or get caught in an unhealthy imbalanced loop. All is energy, frequency, and vibration. Your emotions and thoughts matter and are interconnected to what drives you to do certain things, including eating. How you feel vibrationally will cause you to be drawn to certain foods. I see so many people dogmatizing (right or wrong/ good or bad) the path to being healthy and I sometimes question this approach and see the effects of how it is perpetuating the unhealthy habits, engagement with others, and eating disorders such as food addictions due to the shaming, guilt-tripping and unacceptance to even come from a more balanced perspective, rather than a polarizing one. I was once there myself. However, I continuously work on myself to evolve my consciousness and deepen my understanding and innerstanding with my relationship with others, myself, and food.
Rather than demonizing emotional eating, I think it is more impactful and important to accept and acknowledge this and work on having a healthier relationship with ourselves by respecting and acknowledging our emotional needs. Also, acknowledging the emotional impacts that drive us to not only feel a certain way and behave a certain way but eat a certain way and getting caught up in loops such as food addictions. We can start this process by making space to feel our emotions accept our emotions and know that we are able to change our emotions and are not just our emotions. Also, when sitting with our emotions don't deny, shame or dogmatize them. They are all-powerful have their place and purpose to harmonize and create balance (we will talk about that another time). This is a polarizing view and the suppression of our emotions come from a masculine, dominant perspective, and is dangerous. To bring balance is to acknowledge the power of the feminine force as well. For as you sit and ponder or observe more, you will see most of society preys on this continuously through ads, the news, entertainment, interactions, and just about everything you do is driven by emotions. Emotions should be acknowledged, not suppressed, or controlled. Having a journal that is focused on processing your emotions, thoughts and experiences will help. Having a food log as well to observe your day to day emotions and engagement with people and food will also help. Having someone that is grounded and in a space to hold space for you to maintain balance while you speak about your emotions and process them to flow will help the internal build-up and suppression. Respecting oneself and creating space of healthy outlets of emotional release, through art, movement, writing or any other healthy transmutation that you can think of will prevent you from creating further imbalance. Something of the sort will naturally lead to a better relationship with food, oneself, and others.
I truly hope you found this article enlightening and filled with compassion. I aim to help empower and bring balance. This topic on food addiction is a series and this is part 1. Thank you for reading. Please share this with others who you feel will help transform their relationship to themselves, food, and overall health for the better.
Here a recording of our live caught from Instagram delving into this topic lil moreenjoy